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Do You Know/Are You A Heidi

Hello dolls! I actually have a very different post for you guys today. I do study Journalism because I have a passion for writing. But one other quality I feel like I have a passion for is analysing behaviour in people. I am so interested in psychology, why we are the way we are and why we do the things we do. And because of this I am known a little bit as the advice giver amongst most my friends. I thought I'd share with you guys a little of my opinions about certain issues, (much like my post about "Women In Support Of Women") and try and post these "true to life" topics on a Sunday as often as I can. Lets begin :)

 I am a massive fan of The Hills (sans Kristen Cavallari). I love reality tv because I love the aspect of getting attached to and analysing the behaviour of characters that are actual people (questionable I know hehe). I especially love Lauren Conrad, not just because of her sweet LA girl style but also because, I felt more attached to her as a character because her friendship values matched my own. I too prefer to have a connection to people I can call "best friends" rather than be that collector of people. The only thing that maybe I dont agree with is her pushiness. I have best friends that play different roles in my life, that all represent different aspects of my personality. I have a friends that will always sit and listen to my drama and actually be interested (Whitney's), friends that I've known for years that I'm very similar to (Lo's), friends that I share my emotions with and we'd both drop what we're doing to be there in times of need (Audrina's). And then I started to think... do I have any Heidi's?

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We've all at some point known that girl that has abandoned or fallen out with her friends or changed dramatically as a person after entering into a new relationship. Some of us have even been that girl. Don't get me wrong when you get into a relationship, especially one that becomes serious, I do accept the fact that the loss of a few friendships here and there on both sides does tend to occur. Especially if you feel as if you're around people that don't respect your change in circumstances or have malicious feelings towards your relationship. But when choosing to distance yourself from true friends, as a girl, you have to make sure you are benefiting more from the loss in comparison to what you're losing.

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As The Hills fans would have remembered once Heidi entered into her new relationship Lauren wasn't immediately negative towards the blossoming romance. It was only once Lauren saw Spencer's lack of morality is where she made the "mistake" of being honest with her best friend about her feelings for her new beau. Heidi herself seemed to be swept up in a whirlwind that many women do when dating a guy with a usual reputation for being a player. She begun to feel special that the "former" Lothario was concentrating his efforts on her as opposed to every women in LA. Despite issues that arose between her and friend Audrina about where Spencer's affections lay, and actually catching him in action flirting whilst presuming she was out of LA. Heidi still allowed herself to become susceptible to Spencer's charms.

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Heidi then begun to become confused by Spencer's "us against the world" attitude in regards to their relationship. She started to believe that everyone around her was conspiring to rip apart her perfect relationship with a man who made her feel special, and to quote Rhianna, like the only girl in the world. You can psycho analyse this and blame it on a lack of confidence on Heidi's part, a lack of fulfillment within herself which allowed her to feed off the boosts in confidence she received from Spencer. Along with that Spencer then proceeded to cement the end of her relationship with Lauren and any other friends within that circle by pushing Heidi into a living arrangement she may not have been ready for. And then further damaging things by creating a rumour about her former bff, which was the last  straw for Lauren who famously told Heidi "I want to forgive you, and I want to forget you".
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Once the finality of the friendship became apparent, Spencer then begun to exercise his control over Heidi within her job, her family and within her appearance. If you notice, even before Heidi's famous 10 operations in 24 hours, her image had already taken a drastic change to the Heidi known before. She had less of a fresh beachy look, that incorporated very little make up and shoulder length tousled hair. Then all of a sudden it was hair extensions, false lashes, heavy bronzer and Chanel bags. Not that any of those are a bad thing, but they were a far cry from humble Heidi from Colorado, in fact that Heidi seemed to have been buried by what looked like Heidi the playmate... which coincidentally is the look Spencer was most attracted to in the start of his romance with Heidi.

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Anyway before I bore you all with anymore Hills trivia, my point wasn't to review series one to five of the tv show. It was actually to point out key blind spots most girls don't see when slowly alienating their good friendships for the sake of a new romance.
  • Point One:

  • Point Two: If you are dating someone with a reputation of being a ladies man, by being aware of this reputation and continuing on with the relationship you are whole heartily taking a risk with your heart. I am not saying that a man with a previous history of not taking other women seriously cannot change dependant on the feelings he has for you. But be aware that his reformation will be a constant test of your security within your relationship, and as a woman. Don't be naive, if you are constantly being made aware of his defects in character regarding fidelity by different sources, then they cant all be out to sabotage your relationship. Maybe you are being warned because most people recognize that you shouldn't be in a relationship with this person. And most importantly please believe, most times than not there is no smoke without fire. If it seems dodgy and feels dodgy than its quite possible that you've got a dog on your hands. And if you don't realise its time to leave, that's your business. But please don't allow yourself any illusions that people are "hating on" or jealous of you when giving you information about your partners history or current antics. They are most likely filled with utter pity for you or are finding your resistance to see the truth laughable.

  • Point Three: If you choose to be in a relationship with a man, by all means you should look up to him, respect him, and think beautiful lovely things about him. But you need to be aware that he is human and to the rest of us, just another guy. One of the mistakes some women make is to have false idolisation of their partner and think of their relationship as what defines them, to the point where they believe the rest of us do also. One thing a woman needs to be able to do if she is in fact a woman is to recognize and deal with the flaws of the person their involved with and to face and admit them. And to also understand that the rest of us aren't losing any sleep over what your man thinks or feels about us or life. Friends should always want to get to know and have some form of communication with someone who is a massive part in your life. But that is your life. I cant tell you the amount of moments I've encountered with people who don't seem to understand the insignificance their partner plays in the lives of others. Having a false sense of arrogance about your relationship is extremely unattractive and will push others away.

  • Point Four: Control in a relationship is not necessary nor is it healthy. At some points we all experience the brunts of someones standards or insecurities, in regards to what they will and will not expect from their relationships. I understand that in many ways people will need to change habits and relations they have within their social lives and with people from the opposite sex. But as a person you should still be able to be a functional member of society whilst still maintaining a loving relationship. If at any point you feel as if you are having to give up alot of aspects to your life just to please your partner, you need to communicate to them that it isn't possible for you to stop living just to live up to their ideals. Someone who loves you, wants to see you happy and when taking you on they also take on those factors that make you happy. That includes your family, your goals and aspirations and your true friends. Someone who feels threatened by any of those things, is incredibly selfish and has no care for your feelings as a person let alone someone they are supposed to love.

  • Point Five: This is my last and probably my most important point. If you at any point do not feel physically comfortable with your appearance because of your relationship, or if your partner is encouraging you to make drastic changes to how you look just to suit their own image ideals, then I can boldly tell you that you are in a bad relationship. As a woman you should never have to feel physically inadequate because of someone your dating, us girls are living in such an image conscious age that gives us enough pressure without the added misery of feeling ugly to the man in our lives. Or if the lack of  security in your relationship is causing you to feel physically unhappy with yourself and forcing you to consider altering your appearance then please try to confide in someone around you that you trust immediately. Failing that I urge you to speak to you GP or family doctor about any counselling available for you in your area. I have no issues with a woman giving herself an image revamp, or in fact considering cosmetic surgery, but I believe you should only do this when you are feeling secure and happy in every other aspect of your life.
I am in no way a counsellor nor am I a relationship expert as such. But one thing I have learnt to take extremely seriously in life is my friendships with my girl friends. My Mummy is a typical Virgo, shes definitely a woman's woman, supporting, encouraging, honest and forces you to see how incredible you are, and that's how I truly believe one woman should react towards another if they claim to be friends. I'm speaking as someone who has experienced being burnt by many close friends in the past, yet never once could I treat them with the same negativity they displayed to me. Like Lauren I'd rather just move on with my life and create a distance between myself and the person hurting me. Its very hard for me to engage in a slagging match with someone I was once close with. In the end I know I'd end up racked with guilt and would probably feel as if I was in the wrong instead. Friendships amongst women are increadibly important. They help stabalise us as people, to have a support network amongst people who understand exactly what you go through and why is an increadibly valuable thing. I believe we are credited with emotional intelligence for a reason and thats what enables us to be the type of friends we are. Romantic involvments are just as important, but a good relationship would never isolate or oppress you, and most importantly never cause the loss of the good people in your life.

I hope you guys enjoyed this post. I know its rather long so if you made it to here I'm very impressed. Please let me know your feelings and opinions on the points and issues raised in this post. And of course if you would like to talk further away from here please don't hesitate to email me beauty_stalker@hotmail.co.uk

Wishing all you beautiful ladies a fantastic day

Shopbop Purchases

Hello my loves! Hope you've had a nice enough day. If your a Londoner like myself, then the conspiracy that this isn't really June, and that we've all been specially placed under some kind of coma, and its actually October; has run through your mind at some point. I know I complain about the weather alot but that's all part in parcel of reading the musings of a British person I'm afraid, at some point in the day we have to get one in about the weather. Its the law.

So whilst one is stuck indoors for fear of being rained on, the only only way one can possibly entertain one's self is to check out pretty things online. I know it can't just be me who online shops when I'm bored? Whilst browsing on one of my fave sites shopstyle.co.uk (an online directory for any item of clothing/accessories/shoes or any other fashion related items in any category possible), I came across a stunning little bag that I spent the rest of my evening convincing myself that I needed. And later purchased.

This gawj Marc by Marc Jacobs Nylon tote is soo much bigger than I expected it to be, which is a massive plus. They did have this exact back in leather aswell but my budget didnt justify being stretched that far. I think this will be great for when I go back to uni in Oct as its so wide and durable. And I didn't stop there. I can never help myself when it comes to having a further browse even after I've already decided on a purchase. My snooping took me into the sunglasses dept. where I found a pair that had me intrigued.

I'm not your usual Ray Ban fan, I love the way they look on celebs and other people. But with the size of my head I have to be very careful about what type of sunglasses I attempt to pull off. Not only is my head massive but my face shape is stuck somewhere between square and round, how that's even possible I don't know but it is what it is. But when I saw these Over sized Original Wayfarer's, I thought hmmm its the same style... only larger. That has to be a solution to my RayBan problem...

Its not that I don't like them on, as much as I really don't even know what my opinion is to be honest. I think I'll need to experiment more with hair styles and all of that before I know for sure if I'm happy or not. I really am this way about most sunglasses so no offence to these, I'm just neurotic.

I also have to comment on the Shopbop experience, as this was my first time purchasing anything from there. On the site delivery within three days was promised but in actual fact I felt as if I received a next day delivery service. I made my order on a Tuesday evening after 6pm, and I received my package on Thursday morning. Fastest delivery ever I'd say!

Also if you want to check out either of these beauts you can do so here:


Have you guys made any rainy day purchases lately? Or have you ordered anything internationally and if so how was your experience? What are your preferences in terms of shades?

Have a lovely evening dolls

Girl About Town

Any true MAC devotee will already guess the contents of this post. A couple of days ago a friend of mine mentioned on her blackberry messenger status that she had orderd the infamous MAC Girl About Town lipstick, I then quickly came alive and pinged her promptely to let her know how much I love it. To which she replied "how am I not suprised you have it", my reputation definitely proceeds me.

And I have to thank my lovely friend for reminding me exactly how much I have loved this l/s, it hadnt seen much of the light of day since the s/s coral and peach trends popped up. But rocking it out today I definitely rememberd sometimes we make our own trends work.

Girl About Town is a bright deep fuschia which has an amplified finish, perfectly long wearing for such a bold colour. Its lovely worn during the day with a nice neutral eye or partnerd with a soft smokey eye and lots of lashes for the evening. Gorgeously suited to a girl about town ;-)

Im not too sure if I would be considerd a girl about town today though. My biggest highlights of the day were finally getting my eyebrows waxed after maybe three months of growing out the damage an amatuer threader inflicted upon them.  Some light shopping this morning with a friend I hadnt seen for quite a while. And ofcourse I also joined the gym today.

 I generally need to lose about a stone and a half to feel more confident about my body but added to that I've also put on a few pounds recently when I was struck hard with flu. A week straight of sitting in bed coughing my life away, not moving and eating a considerable amount hasnt exactly done me any favours.

How have you guys spent your day about town? How do you guys feel about this lipstick? Do you have any bold lippy favs?

Hope your all well lovelies

Smoke and Glow FOTD

Shock it was raining this morning in London...in June! Seriously a KMT moment really as its been raining since yesterday afternoon. Nothing new really but its always a pain when you'd rather wear your bright summer dress as opposed to being back in UGG boots and a scarf!

Monday morning make up is always hard enough as it is, without the added thought of attempting to look flawless under the damp and grey atmosphere. Here's how I did my face today. Nothing miraculous but I did attempt to play up my eyes and pack on the highlighter forcing that June glow through despite the weather.

MAC Pro Long Wear Foundation NC42
MAC Studio Sculpt Concealer NW35
MAC MSF Natural in Medium Dark
Illamasqua Bronzer in Wrythe
MAC Pearl Creme Colour Base
MAC blush Pink Swoon

Sleek Storm Palette: Light Matte Brown + Dark Matte Brown in the crease, Light Gold on lid, Matte Black blended into liner
MAC Kohl Pencil Smoulder
Chantecaille Faux Cils mascara in Noir

Estee Lauder  Crystal Baby l/s (my favourite l/s of all time)

Please excuse my hair guys I thought about straightening it, but then twenty odd years of life in England taught me otherwise.

And ofcourse the other half can never resist a photo opp. I'm sure you can pretty much tell what I have to live with based on the face he's pulling! *rolls eyes*

The day wasn't made any sweeter by the fact that my Coco Mademoiselle has officially run out *cries hysterically*. I have been tilting and toppling the bottle frantically to drain the last few molecules but allas it is once and for all finished.

I will probably repurchase this fragrance as in my eyes it is one of those classics every woman must own. Though I'm a little torn at the moment when it comes to choosing my next fragrance for the summer. Any suggestions?

Hope you guys made the most of the day whatever the weather. If you have any questions on this post please don't hesitate to ask.

Have a blessed day dolls

Looking Healthy And Morange

If any of you lovelies are following me on Twitter than you will remember my recent tweet about the Debenhams sale offering 10% off all beauty items. Now obviously 10% isn't exactly a large bargain but every penny counts when its time to stock up on your favourite foundation, or when your ready to try out a cult favourite. Since I'm currently fully stocked up on my make up essentials I decided to try two products that I've never tried myself but heard alot about.

I picked up the MAC Mineralise Skin Finish Naturals in Medium Dark for £16.65 (RRP £18.50) and the MAC Morange Lipstick for £12.15 (RRP £13.50). I've heard rave reviews about both products and thought now was a good opportunity to purchase them both whilst getting a few pounds off.

The powder works amazing over my MAC Pro Long Wear foundation (pics to come) helping set the look with a matte yet healthy looking finish, it even seems build able enough to use on its own as a base, as I have heard others do. Although if worn alone you would have to apply some SPF as I'm not aware that this carries any sun protection.

Morange is an amplified creme finish perfect for that creamy long wearing texture that a bold lipstick should have. Needless to say it is incredibly daring and I'm not sure how up to the job I am of pulling this lipstick off. Never-the-less it is an amazing colour perfect for the season to wear on more of an occasion perhaps.

If you did take part in the sale do let me know how you got on and what items took your fancy. Whether you just fancied taking the opportunity to replace your favourite foundation or maybe tried something new you've heard alot about

Love and kisses